I have found that in living and working the Genuine Contact way, people experience times and situations of discomfort. In my observations, the discomfort seems to be related to truth.
Discomfort #1: There is a challenge to be truthful with oneself about oneself to the extent possible. I say, to the extent possible because being able to be truthful with oneself about oneself is often accomplished in bits and pieces, not all in one long stride.
Discomfort #2: There is the challenge to be truthful with someone else as accepts a willingness to be in genuine contact with anther person. The truthfulness at this point is directly related to #1 and has the added complexity of feelings of vulnerability. What if the other person judges me and doesn’t like me once I expose who I really am? In our societies, we have lots of ways to shield ourselves and so we need to come out from behind those shields to express our truth and to be genuine, and in genuine contact with another.
Discomfort #3: Challenges #1 and #2 get magnified in intensity when undertaking being in genuine contact with a collective. Imagine sitting with your team at work, or your extended family in a family circle. Imagine how much courage it takes to be your genuine self, to be and show up in your truth of who you are. Our collectives, our organizations, our families are generally not historically conditioned to have the capacity to work with truth, and to allow people to be in genuine contact. A truth speaker and a person who dares to show up in his or her truth challenges the status quo.
And so, if it is so uncomfortable to work with truth, and to live and work the Genuine Contact way, why might anyone want to undertake the challenge?
I believe that people are mustering their courage to work with truth, and to be in genuine contact, because they don’t want to keep getting the same historical results…with their lives, their families, their teams, communities, and organizations. It is only through such courage that different and more life nurturing results can be attained.
Do you have the courage to work with your truth? Do you have the courage to live and work in genuine contact?